Unless you’re lucky enough to live in a Disney fairy tale, you will have experienced a break-up. Although come to think of it most Disney films aren’t quite the straightforward love story that we remember. I’ve been unlucky (or possibly lucky) enough to experience my fair share of breakups, but none of them have had quite the same effect on my love of food as this one.
Don’t worry, this isn’t going to be a melancholic post filled with despair, quite the opposite actually, as the past two months have somewhat changed my love and appreciation of food.
I’ve always been strong minded and strong willed, but for the first time my body didn’t follow suite. Following four weeks of actively avoiding food and not wanting to cook, I wondered whether my passion of food and cooking had also upped and left for good.
Lots of research later, and I now realise I had unintentionally signed up to ‘the break up diet’. Oh yes, it has a name. But oh no, this isn’t the ‘two fingers up to your ex’ let’s get back into shape and love ourselves again sort of diet. Having previously been more of a ‘sit on the sofa with my best friends Ben & Jerry’ sort of girl, it’s safe to say that the past two months have been a real learning curve.
So, the basics of ‘the break up diet’ are as follows; your body interprets a break up as a stressful event which can put your body into fight/flight mode, shutting down non-essential systems like your appetite. Add to this a few spikes of anxiety which means your body will release adrenaline which slows down processes in our body like digestion making us feel less hungry – and it’s a viscous circle!
I started writing this post shortly after the break-up hoping to end on what sort of food would appeal to anyone in this situation but having trawled the aisles of the supermarket the answer is quite literally nothing. I’ve seen posts about different superfoods to try, but without any appetite to eat it really is unfortunately a case of time – of riding the whole thing out whilst making sure you look after yourself as best as you can.
In the past few weeks I still haven’t rediscovered my full passion of cooking but am starting to cook more comfort food. Perhaps it’s because of the cold weather we’ve recently had, perhaps it’s because we crave that familiarity. However the sun is starting to come through and the days are getting longer so I’m confident that it won’t be long before I’m back in the kitchen for hours on end (or out with the BBQ!).
So my answer to anyone finding themselves in this situation is to ride the wave, be kind to your body and don’t put pressure on yourself to be ‘normal’. Time really is a great healer, and things will eventually work themselves out if you allow them to. Oh, and hot cross buns are a great one for breakfast – genuinely. Unless you’re reading this past Easter, in which case I apologise!
Comfort food recipes to follow shortly…